Everyone always says that loss is natural but the truth is that when you are going through loss it is the most unnatural feeling in the world. I mean you have this person in your life and then suddenly you have to come to the realization that you will never hear this person speak. Its like your brain is turned off and the one person you want to turn it back on cant. Really loss doe not feel natural and I don't think it is supposed to. Its sad but its real, you realize how much that person really meant to you. When I think about loss I think about my husband losing his parents at the age of sixteen or the loss of my little girl. They weren't almost they were real.I think about Simon Monjack who lost his wife Brittany Murphy just last December and now he dies of natural causes. It is amazing what loss can do to a person. I think the whole mourning process that we have become accustomed to is unnatural too. I mean we take this person who has experienced this great loss and throw them into the middle of planning this "get-together" to memorialize the person they are mourning. They are forced to face a swarm of people for days in a row on no sleep, no nutrition, and with tears in their eyes, and God help them if they are the suffer in silent type. I didn'tcry in front of peoplee at my daughter's funeral and peoplee actually had disparaging remarks about me. I mean hello I was mourning my baby and I have my own ways of well actually I was just in shock. I was in shock and peoplee didn't like it. HOw can people actually criticize someone who has just loss like that?